The
term ‘Love’ has a great significance in Buddhism. “When the Buddha’s disciple
Ananda suggested to him that half of the teaching of the Buddha consisted in
the practice of loving kindness, the Buddha said it was not half, but the whole
of his teaching.” On the basis of love, the Buddha suggested the highest ways
of life (Brahma vihara), or Sublime States – ‘Metta’ or Love (skt. ‘maitri’),
‘Karuna’ or compassion, ‘Mudita’ or Sympathetic joy, and ‘Upekkha’ or Equanimity
(upeksha in skt.). For a little explanation, these are “extending unlimited,
universal love and good will (metta) to all living beings; compassion (Karuna)
for all living beings who are suffering in trouble and need help; sympathetic
joy (mudita) in others’ success, welfare and happiness; and equanimity (upekha)
in all vicissitudes of life.” In fact, the practice of the highest life is that
of the sublime beings who live a life of these Sublime States. So, we see that
the word love has got a vaster meaning and significance in Buddhism.
Metta
suggests non-attachment to anyone and friendship without sensual affection.
There is a distinction between ‘metta’ or loving kindness and ‘pema’ or
personal affection. Metta is an emotion related to impersonal detachment while
pema is an exclusive affection. However, “The Buddha’s boundless love extended
not only to human beings, but to all living creatures.” “If the feeling of love
is the direct result of attachment and clinging, then it really is not
‘metta’.” (Buddhist Meditation)
Metta
is an essential part of the Middle path in the teaching of the Buddha. It seeks
to eliminate the three roots of evil, greed (lobha), hatred (dosa) and illusion
(moha). Metta plays a significant role in the development of moral discipline
(sila), meditation (samadhi), and wisdom (panna), which lead the follower to
the ultimate goal of seeing things as they really are.”
Anger
is opposite to ‘metta’. One must cultivate patience in him. For example, once
an ascetic named Khantivadi was staying in a grove of Benares. But the cruel
king grew angry with him and asked what he was teaching. The ascetic answered
“I teach the value of patience.” As the proof of his patience, the king, at
first had him flogged with scourges of thorns and later his hands and feet cut
off. Even at this the ascetic did not feel the slightest anger.
“The
way to develop Love is through thinking out of evils of hate, and the
advantages of nor-hate; through thinking out according to actuality, according
to ‘karma’, that really there is none to hate, that there is a foolish way of
feeling which breeds more and more darkness that obstructs right understanding.”
Because hatred shuts all the doors of
love.
‘Karuna’
is defined as: ‘the quality which makes the heart of the good man tremble and
quiver at the distress of others.’ ‘The quality that rouses tender feelings in
the good man at the sight of the others suffering.’ A selfish man can not
cultivate compassion or Karuna. Actually, removing Karuma from the teaching of
Buddha means removing the heart of Buddhism. Because it is the basis and matrix
of Buddhism.
In
this context, we can mention a story regarding Buddha’s compassion. A new
fellow known as Tissa entered the order of Buddha. But after a time he fell
sick. “First small pustules broke out on his body, gradually becoming bigger
and bursting, developing into ulcers.” His fellow monks abandoned him but the
Buddha himself took care of his body. After his recovery, Buddha explained his
doctrine to him and he listened. At last Tissa attained the highest stage of
sainthood and passed away.
“The
third sublime state is sympathetic joy or appreciative joy (mudita). It is the wholesome
attitude of rejoicing in the happiness and virtues of others. Sympathetic joy
sees prosperous conditions of others, welcomes the happiness of fellow people.”
Jealousy
is the direct enemy of Mudita. It is usual that we often feel jealous seeing
others happiness but feel happy seeing others suffering. So it must be removed
to get the highest ways of life.
“Seeing
a starving man, we offer him food out of compassion (Karuna) when we see that
he has eaten, that his hanger has eased, and that he feels happy, then we too
feel happy and pleased. Such selfless action really brings us unalloyed joy,
sympathetic joy (mudita)”.
“The
fourth state is that of equanimity (upekkha). When we achieve it we see all
sentient beings as equals. In order to do so, one has to keep in mind that
one’s particular relationship with one’s relatives, friends, and even enemies
is the result of previous Karma. Therefore one should not cling to relatives
and friends while regarding others with indifference.
“Each
of the four sublime states addresses different ills, and helps one further
along the point; loving kindness eradicates ill will and anger (dosa).
Compassion eradicates craving and worldly attachment. Sympathetic joy
eradicates jealousy and makes people less self- centered, and equanimity
eradicates clinging and aversion (moha)” “As all of the Buddha’s teachings, the
practices lead to personal growth and enhance the growth of all beings. Living in
the world involves suffering; the four sublime states are the effort to relieve
the suffering of others while growing one. As they are way to the end of
suffering and the highest happiness, we can truly say that the four sublime
states are love.”
Reference
‘Love
in Buddhism’ by Walpela Piyananda Thera,
‘Buddhist
Meditation’ by Piyadassi Thera
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